![]() ![]() In a meeting with the classroom teachers, I expressed that what would be most helpful would be for me to have current information about upcoming tests and assignments, and to be told promptly when my child fails to turn in work or is unprepared. The ADD manifests as extreme difficulty with organizing time, paper, tasks and information. I'm in the process of seeking a 504 plan for my middle- schooler, who has been diagnosed with ADD. I'm hoping other parents will help me form reasonable expectations for teacher communications in the context of a 504 plan for a child with learning problems in a public school. Should I request an IEP for 7 year old with ADHD?ĥ04 for ADD and fair expectations for teacher communication.504 for ADD and fair expectations for teacher communication.I'd rather be *that* mom with an educated kid than everybody's friend, I guess. Is my son getting the education and accomodations he needs? Heck yeah. Am I everybody's favorite PTA mom? Heck no. I've also escalated up to principals or other administrators immediately if I felt the teacher was blowing me off. My child is in eighth grade now and I still have at 504 meeting at the beginning of the year, one mid year and a month-before-school-ends check in. As you have experienced, you will get the civil servant shrug unless you push, push and push. What this experience taught me is that you are your child's best advocate at school. Upside: Ineffective teacher was gone a year later so at least she couldn't treat someone else's child so poorly. Downside: The other parents in my child's class treated us both like pariahs. Why is that? Isn't that a violation of the 504?" Because I was in their face so much, the bad behavior declined. ![]() Example: "So you said you'd separate my child and bully, but they're in math group together. Every time we met, I got the 504 updated and signed with what ever they said they'd do to fix the bad behavior, then I followed up at the next meeting. I didn't give a flying rat's ass, frankly, her poor teaching skills and job performance were the whole reason we were there. It got so acrimonious she was inviting her union steward to the meetings. In other words, I was all over the unprofessional teacher like white on rice. I asked "what are you going to do to fix/change/stop this?" a lot. I called lots of conferences with the teacher and the principal if there were reports of bad behavior. I didn't have funds for a lawyer, but I did use vacation and FMLA time (you are eligible because your son has a medical condition) to take time off work and visit his class room - a lot. I had a similar situation with my son in first grade. My husband approached the school with anger that they weren't doing what they were supposed to do and it took me a long time to repair the damage that he did. I've found that sitting down with them, acknowledging how difficult my son is to have in class, asking them for suggestions for things that I could be doing at home to help them, have really worked for us. Treat the school like your ally in this instead of the enemy. Believe me, if you can figure out an accommodation that will work, the teacher will do it because her life will be easier. We have a lot of different agreements like that with the teacher. If he wants to stand to do his work that's fine. My son is allowed to move around the classroom when he needs to as long as he doesn't bother the other students. Just focus on what you can do to make sure that he doesn't hate school. Understand that the school didn't give him ADHD and he's probably very challenging to have in class (my son is). Who cares about the bad behavior grades of a small child? If it will impact your ability to get him into a fancy private school that school probably wouldn't be a good fit for him anyway. In my opinion, you should only be looking forward and trying to figure what needs to happen to help your son succeed in school. Involve your school's principal and guidance counsellor. Ask for a weekly email from the teacher about how things are going. Ask for an SST meeting at the beginning of every school year to get the new teacher on board with techniques that work. You just have to stay in constant contact with the school. ![]()
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